Letter to the Doubters…I’m Going for My Dreams

Dear Doubters,   I really appreciate your worry, your concern, and your opinions about me going for my dreams. …Kinda. Ok wait, no actually, I don’t appreciate it at all. You can keep it to yourself. Because here’s the thing…I’m going for my dreams. I just am.   I’m not doing it so that I can prove you wrong. I have nothing to prove to you. This is for me.   I believe that we are meant to live our dreams…so I’m going for it.   Dreams don’t have to be on some grand visible platform. They don’t have to involve fame and fortune, praise and approval. They just need to be yours…whatever they may be.   In fact, my dreams don’t really have any particular form, or goal, or target, or mission. My dreams have an essence. I have a certain way I want them to feel.   Sure, I have a vision of what it all may look like, but I’ve given up the details to the divine. They can figure that part out for me. They know me and what I want much better...

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Your Worries & Doubts Are Boring

You know those worries that keep nagging at you? And those doubts that keep stopping you? Well…they’re boring.   Now, I wish I could say I was the creative genius that came to that conclusion, but the truth is, I came across a letter that Elizabeth Gilbert (you know, the slightly successful, author of Eat, Pray, Love…and now Big Magic?) wrote to her friend when her friend was consumed with fear.   Before sharing the letter, Elizabeth first wrote – “Normally, I would have responded with a long, tender, compassionate letter — trying to convince her once again of her talents, and of my support and faith in her. But I was tired and in a hurry. So instead, I just wrote the truth.”   Even before I read the letter she sent to her friend, I let out a gust of pent up “nice-ness” in reading this prelude. How often in our quest to be kind and caring do we end up holding back on the truth? My gosh…I can’t even count the times!   Now, truth be told, even in my nice-ness,...

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Be Careful What You Get Inspired By

I love to read. Always have. I’m sure always will.   I love to watch tv, movies, and documentaries (oh, and let’s not forget The Bachelor! ;) ). Sometimes maybe a little too much.   But it’s the stories that I love.   Through books, tv, movies, and a variety of other platforms, there’s always stories being told. People have things to say. People have stories to share.   BUT…   We need to be careful what we get inspired by.   Are you inspired by triumph over struggle? Do you praise the person who succeeds through dogged hard work? Do you admire those who sacrifice themselves for others? Do you applaud those who strive and push their way to success?   It’s not unusual if you do. We’ve been trained to respect and commend these gripping feats of achievement. We’ve been led to believe that…   struggle equals value hardship equals honor adversity equals worth suffering equals meaning   Sure, we certainly can – and do – learn, grow, and evolve through pain and struggle. And I absolutely am not taking away the compassion and empathy we have for people who have travelled a hard road. But, we...

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Enough Already.

I’m pretty light-hearted and optimistic about life. I make it a habit to look for the good. But every once in a while I just get this feeling best described as…uuugh.  I can’t help but say ENOUGH ALREADY.   …to the world, to the whiners, to the skeptics, to the cynics, to the pessimists, and when needed…to myself.   Enough with the excuses and complaining.   Enough with the self-pity and victimhood.   Enough with the righteousness and blame.   Enough with the judgements and shaming.   Enough with the gossip and drama.   Enough with the fakeness and facades.   Enough with the manipulation and self-serving expectations.   Enough with the over-thinking and over-analyzing.   Enough with the stubborn and rigid thinking.   Enough with the condensing and superior attitudes.   Enough with the defenses and walls.   Enough with the striving and trying too hard.   Enough with the superficial goals and accomplishments.   Enough with the antagonist competition.   Enough with comparing and keeping score.   Enough with the resentments and unforgiveness.   Enough with the assumptions and projections.   Enough with the busyness and misplaced priorities.   Enough with the spiritualized nonsense that creates more judgement.   Enough with the news stories scavenging on people’s tragedies.   These have become the norm. BUT they aren’t...

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Radical Self Love as a Spiritual Practice

I believe there has been a long time misunderstanding and confusion about what self love means.  I consider radical self love to mean caring for yourself, honoring your well being, taking responsibility for yourself and your life, respecting your body, meeting yourself with compassion and kindness, making empowered choices, being a conscious participant in creating your reality.  Self love certainly is not about being an egomaniac, self centered, or arrogant.   We have unconsciously been taught that to love ourselves is to be vain, selfish and conceited. We learned to feel ashamed about liking ourselves - never mind speak to anyone out loud about our goodness.   Radical self love is a way to shift these beliefs and unconscious thought patterns.  These buried beliefs we picked up and made meaning about ourselves are not serving our greatest potential.  These patterns and beliefs hold us back from living out our fullest expression in this life.   Our life experience is a manifestation of the vibration we carry within us.  This is why I suggest Radical Self Love as a Spiritual Practice.  The...

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