Day 14 No Striving Challenge – 1st By-Product of Over-Achieving
We’ve been taught that we need willpower to get the things we desire, whether that be to lose weight, make a certain amount of money, be successful in business, be a better parent, etc.
Not only is the idea about willpower a mistaken belief, but it’s a belief that takes a hit on us in more than one way:
- First, we exert willpower, thus forcing and pushing against the flow, in order to get where we want to be going.
- THEN, if we don’t get where we’re going fast enough, we beat ourselves up for not having “enough willpower” …and guilt ensues.
Here’s the thing, all willpower does is lead to burn out. Sure, maybe not right away. You’ll see some results….but there’s only so long you can sustain willpower. No need to feel guilt about it. We just aren’t designed to exert willpower to make things happen. The very premise of it goes against the natural flow of things.
Nature is an excellent reflection of how our lives are meant to be. A seedling doesn’t use willpower to become a flower. A river doesn’t force and push its way to the ocean.
And nor do we need to use willpower to get where we’re going. I admit, it took me a little while to learn this one! My “doing” and willpower muscle was stubbornly planted, BUT as soon as I began to gradually trust all is unfolding as it is meant to…life became a whole lot easier.
Soul Team Chat
- Are there any areas of your life where you feel burnt out?
- What feels like a more natural way to move forward?