Do you Value Your Child…Regardless of What Team They End Up On?
With the start of the school year also comes the start of evaluations for many sports that our children are involved in. Because of this I am hearing the buzz of a common theme. The wonder, the anticipation, the speculation, the expectations…and above all the stress. The ironic part? These aren’t the feelings of most the kids…these are the feelings of the parents.
I think all parents who have children involved in sports experience some of these feelings to one degree or another. It takes a lot of self-awareness on the part of the parent, as well as the child, to not get caught up in the intensity of emotions that can occur. However, we are human, and parenting from the ego can take a strong-hold and hold us prisoner if we are not in a place to recognize it.
This is a topic near and dear to my heart. I have a strong desire for parents to wake up to the appealing pull of the ego-mind, and recognize the effects it has on how we parent. I believe parents have a responsibility to acknowledge the role they play, and take ownership in how they parent. Part of this role involves us committing to understanding and allowing our children to be who they are. And this translates into how we truly value our children.
The truth of the matter is we can only value and accept our children to the degree that we value and accept ourselves.
It’s for this reason that we parent from the ego. If we don’t fully value and accept ourselves, we unconsciously pass these unhealed feelings onto our children, and use their accomplishments and achievements to stand as a symbol for our own value.
It’s all well and good if they end up where you had “hoped” they would, BUT ask yourself…what if they didn’t? How would you react? Would you have the same things to say? Would you feel the same sense of pride and accomplishment?
I hear the choir of rebuttals insisting that “we only want what’s best for them, ” or “I’m happy as long as they try their best.” A true indictor of whether you are happy with them trying their best and not having an attachment to the results is your reaction if they don’t place where you had expected.
How would you react? What would you say to your child? Would you be hard on them? Would you place blame on the evaluation process or some external factor? Or would you be able to quickly adjust and make the best of what is?
If you’ve asked yourself the above questions, and are willing to admit that parenting from the ego may creep in from time to time (believe me, you wouldn’t be alone)…and you’re ready to take some steps towards being a more open-minded, accepting, and soulful parent…while at the same time discover more about yourself, I’d like to share with you a program that will completely shift how you parent – The Soulful Parent: How to Nurture Your Child’s True Self and Set Their Stage for Growth, Success and Fulfillment.
This is a live event that starts Oct. 2nd. Stay tuned for the self study, and ecourse which are coming soon.
Trisha Savoia is founder/owner of Absolute Awareness, and creator of the The Integrity Code, and The Soulful Parent Programs. Through her programs, writing, and speaking she uses her skills, experience, and intuition as a mother, teacher, Clinical Hypnotherapist, and Entrepreneur to help guide moms to recover their true selves and their intuition, while at the same time learn how to parent so their children can do the same.