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Day 25 No Striving Challenge – You Have Soul Support

We’ve been misled into mistaken thinking, by buying into the belief we need to work hard, struggle, and make things happen, because we’re doing this on our own.   The crux of what keeps us striving is…we’ve forgotten that we have help; that we’re NOT in this on our own.   Not only do we have a team of non-physical beings (I call them my SOUL TEAM – made up of your Higher Self, deceased loved ones, angels, spirit guides, and Ascended Masters...

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Day 8 No Striving Challenge – 2 Habits of Perfectionism

When in the throes of Perfectionism, it not only impacts your own life, but it impacts those around you. Here’s why - Perfectionism brings with it a high standard to live up to and attain.   This high standard of living results in these two habits:   1) Being Hard on Yourself – In striving to maintain the outward vision of perfection, by default you end up being really hard on yourself. Along with this comes a lot of guilt and second-guessing.   2) Being Hard on Others – Since you hold yourself to such a high standard, it stands to reason that you also hold others to a high, and often impossible, standard. Your high and rigid expectations cause you to be tough on others, and you can be easily frustrated with others imperfections.   Another aspect to this is that you can try to “fix” other people. You may come from a place of thinking you are being thoughtful and helpful, however the truth is that your quest to “fix” others is invested...

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Day 7 No Striving Challenge – You might be a Perfectionist if…

Perfectionism gives us a sense of control. When things look and are presented perfectly on the exterior, we are given the illusion of feeling we have everything under control.   There are common Perfectionistic traits that can keep us striving to present the perfect outward picture. Often we aren’t even aware this program is playing through our story. See if you see yourself in any of these.   You might be a Perfectionist if… You have excessive concern over details Work and productivity have a tendency to often win out over leisure You are extremely conscientious You are bound by rules You are inflexible and rigid in your thinking, plans and actions You have a reluctance to delegate tasks You have a hard time relinquishing control You have a tendency to compare yourself to others   Soul Team Chat  Ok, time for a soul chat to get real and vulnerable. Where do you display perfectionistic traits? Does it feel time to let any of these ways of being die away? If so, thank them for serving you while you needed them, but let them know that...

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Striving is #1 Cause to Struggle, Overwhelm & Frustration

I woke up on New Years day, and feeling a little lazy, I didn’t want to get out of bed right away. So, as I lay there, I grabbed my phone and decided to check my emails. As they were downloading, I saw the many subject lines scrolling down the screen….and I was triggered! I was overwhelmed with a feeling I can only describe as “Ugh.” I don’t know why I was surprised by the influx of emails all peppy and encouraging me to live my best life in 2014…but something was set off in me. No denying it. I had a strong visceral reaction to having my inbox flooded with very well-intentioned emails all willing to help me change, fix, and improve my life. Knowing that when we get triggered it’s never about the other person or people; it’s always about us, I knew there was a message in this for me. So, I decided to just take some time and feel into what it was. I knew that...

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Expectations Affect Our Children By…

As parents we’ve often been told that it’s important to set certain expectations for our children or risk having them be failures in life. …Okay, so the messages aren’t quite that bold, BUT the underlying message does hit on a nerve that creates the fear of failing our children.   With that fear fully engaged, we often buy into the old paradigms of what society, parents, media, and peers say we “should” be expecting of our children. They should: Behave a certain way so they are well liked Start activities early so they don’t fall behind Always play with (or hang out…for the older kids!) other kids so they don’t feel left out Say yes to all invitations so they don’t miss out on opportunities Keep their opposing thoughts to themselves in case they are judged Buy brand name clothes or the latest technology to fit in with their peers   Now, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t do any of these things, and shouldn’t have any level of expectation.  Of course not!  What I’m saying is we...

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