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Expectations Affect Our Children By…

As parents we’ve often been told that it’s important to set certain expectations for our children or risk having them be failures in life. …Okay, so the messages aren’t quite that bold, BUT the underlying message does hit on a nerve that creates the fear of failing our children.   With that fear fully engaged, we often buy into the old paradigms of what society, parents, media, and peers say we “should” be expecting of our children. They should: Behave a certain way so they are well liked Start activities early so they don’t fall behind Always play with (or hang out…for the older kids!) other kids so they don’t feel left out Say yes to all invitations so they don’t miss out on opportunities Keep their opposing thoughts to themselves in case they are judged Buy brand name clothes or the latest technology to fit in with their peers   Now, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t do any of these things, and shouldn’t have any level of expectation.  Of course not!  What I’m saying is we...

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