busy Tag

Day 15 No Striving Challenge – 2nd By-Product of Over-Achieving

The 2nd by-product of Over-Achieving is MICRO-MANAGING & MULTI-TASKING YOUR LIFE.   Instead of life being something to enjoy, it becomes something to manage. And in order to manage it, multi-tasking becomes inevitable. Our life becomes one big to-do list…and this keeps us very busy!   I’m sure that it is not big news to you to hear that we live in a hyper-paced society. Just listening to conversations, and looking around at people scurrying from one activity or errand to the next is proof enough that this is true. After being asked “How are you?” a common response is “Busy.”   When we’re busy, we’re given the false premise that we are actually achieving something.   What are you afraid will happen if you make the choice to slow down? Are you afraid… you will lose how others view you?…and you like the recognition. your kids will be deprived or held back in some way? you won’t feel important? that things would fall apart if you didn’t do them? you would be missing out on something? you would be judged? you would have to face...

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Striving is #1 Cause to Struggle, Overwhelm & Frustration

I woke up on New Years day, and feeling a little lazy, I didn’t want to get out of bed right away. So, as I lay there, I grabbed my phone and decided to check my emails. As they were downloading, I saw the many subject lines scrolling down the screen….and I was triggered! I was overwhelmed with a feeling I can only describe as “Ugh.” I don’t know why I was surprised by the influx of emails all peppy and encouraging me to live my best life in 2014…but something was set off in me. No denying it. I had a strong visceral reaction to having my inbox flooded with very well-intentioned emails all willing to help me change, fix, and improve my life. Knowing that when we get triggered it’s never about the other person or people; it’s always about us, I knew there was a message in this for me. So, I decided to just take some time and feel into what it was. I knew that...

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Tea Time with Trish: Let’s Talk About the Word Busy

Because I work with women and moms, many of whom live busy lives, I hear the word “busy” used a lot.  However, what I’m starting to see is that that word is bringing with it an attachment to guilt.  Yep, just on more thing to feel guilty about!  So, I wanted to use this blog as a way to dispel some of the guilt that we as mothers continue to put on ourselves.   As mothers, I believe it is important to become self-aware – aware of who we are, and how we spend our time.  With this increased awareness comes the knowing of what our priorities truly are, and we of course then try to manage our time based on these priorities. The one down side of awareness (really, I think all awareness is an upside if you choose to see it that way) is that the things that aren’t working become glaringly obvious. And if you are the type of person who tends to be hard...

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Tea Time with Trish: Ahhh….time…

TIME.  That one word can cause so much angst. Most of us feel we don’t have enough of it.  We get caught up in worry that we aren’t where we want to be, or we’ll never get it all done.  A lot of our concerns are wrapped up in this one word.  I certainly know I have been guilty of this.   Over the last few weeks, I knew my body was giving me the message to let go of the need of “getting it all done.”  And even though I was well aware of the message, I was trying to bargin with myself, saying, “Yeah, yeah, I will relax more, but just let me get this one last thing done.”  And then I’d get that done, and something else came up, and I’d say the same thing, “Ok, ok, seriously, after this, I really will do something that feeds my soul, and re-energizes my spirit.”   Well, that can continue on...

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Tea Time with Trish: Part 2 – Really? I Thought I Was Listening!

UNEXPECTED GIFTS FROM A GETAWAY   Here is part 2 of the 6 part “Unexpected Gifts From a Getaway” blog series.  Click here if you’d like to start at the beginning.   As I mentioned last week, I had eagerly been anticipating my 3 day getaway to Banff, only to get there and on the second day come to realize that it wasn’t going quite how I expected.  This little getaway ended up bringing about amazing lessons that I clearly needed to learn, and that I am going to continue sharing with you here.   The first thing that time to myself in Banff helped me realize is that I had denied myself the permission to feel what I was feeling, because I was too focused on where I was going.  I’m all for putting your energy in the direction you want to be heading, but definitely not at the expense of losing touch with what your emotions are telling you.   Obviously this was the reason why I so strongly felt that I had to get away...

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