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Day 26 No Striving Challenge – Time to Surrender

As you can probably see by now, we can live in a vicious, unhealthy cycle of striving to prove something. But to who? …to yourself? …your family? …your friends? …the world?   And isn’t it time for a change? Wouldn’t it be refreshing to be able to simply trust that all is falling into place without your need to be in control of it at all times? Ahhh….   Here’s the thing…you really can relax into that knowing.   When we let go of the belief that we have to do this on our own, we come to a place of surrender. Not surrender in the sense that we give up, but rather surrender to the knowing that all is well.   Trying too hard amplifies your lack of belief in yourself, in your source of well-being.   As Abraham from www.Abraham-Hicks.com says…   We’ve been taught to believe the lack of trying is laziness or unambitious, but the Truth is lack of trying shows your confidence in who you really are.   Your work now is to align with the power of...

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Day 19 No Striving Challenge – Striving is a Focus on Lack

We all have employed action to get where we want to be, whether it be physical actions we take, or energetic strategies and techniques we use to make things happen (ie. affirmations, visualizations, energy work such as reiki, hypnosis, etc). And both of these avenues yield results (but neither are always necessary either).   However what’s important to know is that when you are employing any of these forms of “doing” or efforting with an energy of striving, it automatically brings with it resistance…which can slow or stall that which you are trying to make happen.   And here’s the reason why. By feeling you need to take some sort of action to change, fix or improve something or make something happen you immediately activate the awareness that you are lacking it.   So how do you shift that?   It doesn’t mean you stop all forms of action. Of course not, because action (inspired action) is needed to create the momentum and make things manifest. But what is required is…   Put forth the action...

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Day 18 No Striving Challenge – What Keeps Us from Ease, Calm & Peace

There is one thing that is the hindrance keeping us from ease, calm and peace – ATTACHMENT.   Our attachment to expectations, outcomes, and proving ourselves is a form of control…and it keeps us striving.   Attachment is when we feel our desires need to come to us in a particular form, should look a specific way, and come at a precise time. Absolutely it’s okay to have preferences in what we want, but then we need to let go of the “how.” It’s when we try to control each step along the way that we slow down the flow.   Our attachments keep us striving. When we feel we have to act a certain way, have certain things, and do certain things to prove our value and worth, we keep striving to “get there, ” and we never can settle into simply being and allowing.   These are some areas you may harbour attachments: To having a relationship – What’s wrong with me if I can’t find someone? To career – The more money and...

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Day 15 No Striving Challenge – 2nd By-Product of Over-Achieving

The 2nd by-product of Over-Achieving is MICRO-MANAGING & MULTI-TASKING YOUR LIFE.   Instead of life being something to enjoy, it becomes something to manage. And in order to manage it, multi-tasking becomes inevitable. Our life becomes one big to-do list…and this keeps us very busy!   I’m sure that it is not big news to you to hear that we live in a hyper-paced society. Just listening to conversations, and looking around at people scurrying from one activity or errand to the next is proof enough that this is true. After being asked “How are you?” a common response is “Busy.”   When we’re busy, we’re given the false premise that we are actually achieving something.   What are you afraid will happen if you make the choice to slow down? Are you afraid… you will lose how others view you?…and you like the recognition. your kids will be deprived or held back in some way? you won’t feel important? that things would fall apart if you didn’t do them? you would be missing out on something? you would be judged? you would have to face...

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Day 11 No Striving Challenge – 1st By-Product of Over-Analyzing

The 1st by-product of being an Over-Analyzer is JUDGEMENT – of ourselves, and of others.   1. Judging Ourselves – Because over-analyzing often brings with it the doubts and questioning of our choices and decisions, we end up judging and being very hard on ourselves when we feel we didn’t make the “right” choice. This keeps us striving to be better and do better next time.   2. Judging Others – By over-analyzing and over-thinking others words, actions and choices we can come to believe we understand their motivations and assume we know what’s “best” for them. We can judge their choices, and therefore try to control, guilt, and manipulate them into seeing things the “right” way…which of course is our way.   Soul Team Chat  Where and how are you judging yourself? Where and how are you judging others?  ...

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