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Day 6 No Striving Challenge – 4 Common Behaviors of Striving

In our quest for proving our value and worthiness we often get caught in one, if not all, of the common behaviors of striving. These behaviors are established with the underlying desire to get our emotional needs met, because at some level we feel a void.   But what these behaviors really accomplish is keeping us trapped in striving for something that is outside of ourselves.   4 Common Behaviors of Striving: Perfectionism People Pleasing Over-Analyzing Over-Achieving   Over time, more and more aspects of these behaviors dropped away for me. Sometimes, however, I met the releasing of them with a lot of resistance….and that was my indicator that it definitely was time to let them go.   When resistance kicks in, that is a really good sign that you are ready to let go of the behaviors that haven’t been serving you. Be warned - as what you no longer need rises to the surface, your ego mind gets louder!   Soul Team Chat What in your life feels like it is no longer serving you? Are you getting mind chatter around...

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Day 5 No Striving Challenge – The Part Worth & Value Play

Our ego mind can exert a lot of control over us, because it convinces us that we have to prove our value and worthiness. This need to prove our value and worthiness keeps us in a state of striving to do just that.   Some of the ways that our ego mind is appeased come in the following forms of striving…   Parenting - Using your children to reflect your worth & value Encouraging your kids to aim for the honor roll Urging your kids to work hard to be on a certain team Training your kids to behave a certain way   Career - Using your career as a position of status to show your worth & value Trying to make more money Trying to climb the ladder to higher position, power & prestige   Body - Using the state of your body as an image of worth & value Trying to lose/gain weight Hoping to avoid illness   Relationships - Using your relationship status to prove your worth & value Trying to find the right one & fall in love Worried what others are thinking and saying   Homes - Using your home as a...

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Day 4 No Striving Challenge – What keeps us Striving?

What has been keeping us in Striving Mode?   …FEAR   In present day our fears don’t have the devastating consequences that our ancestors had to endure, but like it or not, we have been shaped by the centuries of scarcity, trauma, suffering, and danger. Our DNA embodies the survival instinct of our past generations – fight, flee, deny & control.   What we are striving and struggling to survive now doesn’t result in famine and death, however our bodies still naturally go into the fight or flight response whenever it feels a threat to its survival. The difference now is that it’s no longer a threat to our lives, but it’s a threat to the survival of our ego mind.   “What worked to cope with fear in earlier, lower frequency times now limits our potential.” ~Penney Pierce   Thankfully, we don’t have to remain victim to this way of being. Fear doesn’t need to be our driving force that keeps us striving to satisfy our ego minds.   Awareness plays a big part in...

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Tea Time with Trish: My Summer Struggle

Summer is upon us and with that it has been bringing up mixed feelings for me.  The reason for these mixed feelings is because my higher self and my ego mind have been battling it out!  Since I have gone into business for myself, I know that the direction my business takes lies directly on my shoulders.   Most times I embrace the fact that I control my own future, however, in all honesty at times this can also scare the crap out of me!   The reason for the recent mixed feelings is because I really want to focus on being in the moment of being a mom, without the constant pull to feel like I “should” be doing something to keep up the momentum of my business.  If you talk to any marketer it is absolutely imperative to remain consistently visible so that we don’t get forgotten.  Although I do believe this to be true, I also feel that it is even more important to be in integrity at all times.   Because...

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Are You Parenting From the Ego?

As parents your intention is always to be doing what is best for your children.  But even with the best of intentions our own past programming can take over, which may lead us to parent from the ego.   First, I need to start by giving a definition of ego, since what I am referring to is not how we have come to understand and associate the word ego.  I’m not referring to arrogance and the notion of feeling superior to others.  What I’m referring to is your sense of identity; what you use to value yourself and how you allow external circumstances and events to define you.   So many of us have come to value our worth based on the square footage of our houses, the brand names we wear, the vehicles we drive…and most destructively how well our kids do - whether that be in school, sports, or how well they show their manners…because god knows I’ve taught them how to behave well in public!   How many times have you...

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