expectations Tag

Day 18 No Striving Challenge – What Keeps Us from Ease, Calm & Peace

There is one thing that is the hindrance keeping us from ease, calm and peace – ATTACHMENT.   Our attachment to expectations, outcomes, and proving ourselves is a form of control…and it keeps us striving.   Attachment is when we feel our desires need to come to us in a particular form, should look a specific way, and come at a precise time. Absolutely it’s okay to have preferences in what we want, but then we need to let go of the “how.” It’s when we try to control each step along the way that we slow down the flow.   Our attachments keep us striving. When we feel we have to act a certain way, have certain things, and do certain things to prove our value and worth, we keep striving to “get there, ” and we never can settle into simply being and allowing.   These are some areas you may harbour attachments: To having a relationship – What’s wrong with me if I can’t find someone? To career – The more money and...

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Expectations Affect Our Children By…

As parents we’ve often been told that it’s important to set certain expectations for our children or risk having them be failures in life. …Okay, so the messages aren’t quite that bold, BUT the underlying message does hit on a nerve that creates the fear of failing our children.   With that fear fully engaged, we often buy into the old paradigms of what society, parents, media, and peers say we “should” be expecting of our children. They should: Behave a certain way so they are well liked Start activities early so they don’t fall behind Always play with (or hang out…for the older kids!) other kids so they don’t feel left out Say yes to all invitations so they don’t miss out on opportunities Keep their opposing thoughts to themselves in case they are judged Buy brand name clothes or the latest technology to fit in with their peers   Now, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t do any of these things, and shouldn’t have any level of expectation.  Of course not!  What I’m saying is we...

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