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Striving is #1 Cause to Struggle, Overwhelm & Frustration

I woke up on New Years day, and feeling a little lazy, I didn’t want to get out of bed right away. So, as I lay there, I grabbed my phone and decided to check my emails. As they were downloading, I saw the many subject lines scrolling down the screen….and I was triggered! I was overwhelmed with a feeling I can only describe as “Ugh.” I don’t know why I was surprised by the influx of emails all peppy and encouraging me to live my best life in 2014…but something was set off in me. No denying it. I had a strong visceral reaction to having my inbox flooded with very well-intentioned emails all willing to help me change, fix, and improve my life. Knowing that when we get triggered it’s never about the other person or people; it’s always about us, I knew there was a message in this for me. So, I decided to just take some time and feel into what it was. I knew that...

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Are You Using Santa to Manipulate Your Kids?

Christmas is an exciting time of year for kids …but can be an overwhelming one for adults if you allow yourself to get hooked into the stress.  As the excitement increases for the kids, and the stress increases in direct proportion for the adults, I have seen and heard parents using the icons of the season (ie. Santa, Elf on the Shelf) in order to get their children to “behave.” It seems the perfect opportunity to step out of the role of being the “bad guy” ourselves, and putting the emphasis and blame somewhere else.  It takes the heat off of us for a change!!! You’ll hear statements such as: You better behave or you’ll be on the naughty list. You better listen cause Santa is watching. You’re going to get a lump of coal in your stocking if you keep that up. I’m gonna get Santa on the phone if you don’t clean your room. ….or some other more creative renditions. Though it may be a very effective method at the time, the hard truth is ….it’s...

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Expectations Affect Our Children By…

As parents we’ve often been told that it’s important to set certain expectations for our children or risk having them be failures in life. …Okay, so the messages aren’t quite that bold, BUT the underlying message does hit on a nerve that creates the fear of failing our children.   With that fear fully engaged, we often buy into the old paradigms of what society, parents, media, and peers say we “should” be expecting of our children. They should: Behave a certain way so they are well liked Start activities early so they don’t fall behind Always play with (or hang out…for the older kids!) other kids so they don’t feel left out Say yes to all invitations so they don’t miss out on opportunities Keep their opposing thoughts to themselves in case they are judged Buy brand name clothes or the latest technology to fit in with their peers   Now, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t do any of these things, and shouldn’t have any level of expectation.  Of course not!  What I’m saying is we...

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Being Yourself is Easier Said Than Done

Great advice, BUT sometimes this piece of wisdom is easier said than done…without some guidance. WHY? Because we have become so wrapped up in our own stories that we often have bought into them hook, line, and sinker.   I know for many years this was true for me. -I believed my story that it was very important to put “obligations” and others needs above my own…because if I didn’t people may not like and accept me. -I believed my story that it was better to follow the safer path…because going the path less travelled was risky, scary, and who knew what could happen?! -I believed my story that I liked being busy…because I didn’t know any other way, and was needing something to fill the void. -I believed my story that by buying brands names and the “in” items somehow made me “belong”…because everyone else was doing it. -I believed my story that I was stuck and a victim of my circumstances…because I never understood the bigger picture.   Once I challenged my stories and my beliefs,...

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What’s the Natural Rhythm of Your Life

Well, I’m back into the swing of things! I had decided to take the summer off, and for those of you who read my June blog, I had shared how I felt I needed to follow my gut and take time to focus on just enjoying my kids without having the continual pull to always “be working.”  Last summer I really struggled with this.  Part of me felt I “should” be with my kids, but another part of me felt I “should” be working.  This lead to me not fully enjoying or being in the moment when I was doing either. This summer I decided I would not to do the same.  It wasn’t fair to my kids, and it wasn’t fair to my peace of mind.  So with that in mind, I took a look at my priorities and being with my kids was top dog.  As much as it scared me to let go of actively working in my business throughout the summer months (except for seeing clients),...

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