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Day 18 No Striving Challenge – What Keeps Us from Ease, Calm & Peace

There is one thing that is the hindrance keeping us from ease, calm and peace – ATTACHMENT.   Our attachment to expectations, outcomes, and proving ourselves is a form of control…and it keeps us striving.   Attachment is when we feel our desires need to come to us in a particular form, should look a specific way, and come at a precise time. Absolutely it’s okay to have preferences in what we want, but then we need to let go of the “how.” It’s when we try to control each step along the way that we slow down the flow.   Our attachments keep us striving. When we feel we have to act a certain way, have certain things, and do certain things to prove our value and worth, we keep striving to “get there, ” and we never can settle into simply being and allowing.   These are some areas you may harbour attachments: To having a relationship – What’s wrong with me if I can’t find someone? To career – The more money and...

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Day 7 No Striving Challenge – You might be a Perfectionist if…

Perfectionism gives us a sense of control. When things look and are presented perfectly on the exterior, we are given the illusion of feeling we have everything under control.   There are common Perfectionistic traits that can keep us striving to present the perfect outward picture. Often we aren’t even aware this program is playing through our story. See if you see yourself in any of these.   You might be a Perfectionist if… You have excessive concern over details Work and productivity have a tendency to often win out over leisure You are extremely conscientious You are bound by rules You are inflexible and rigid in your thinking, plans and actions You have a reluctance to delegate tasks You have a hard time relinquishing control You have a tendency to compare yourself to others   Soul Team Chat  Ok, time for a soul chat to get real and vulnerable. Where do you display perfectionistic traits? Does it feel time to let any of these ways of being die away? If so, thank them for serving you while you needed them, but let them know that...

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Day 6 No Striving Challenge – 4 Common Behaviors of Striving

In our quest for proving our value and worthiness we often get caught in one, if not all, of the common behaviors of striving. These behaviors are established with the underlying desire to get our emotional needs met, because at some level we feel a void.   But what these behaviors really accomplish is keeping us trapped in striving for something that is outside of ourselves.   4 Common Behaviors of Striving: Perfectionism People Pleasing Over-Analyzing Over-Achieving   Over time, more and more aspects of these behaviors dropped away for me. Sometimes, however, I met the releasing of them with a lot of resistance….and that was my indicator that it definitely was time to let them go.   When resistance kicks in, that is a really good sign that you are ready to let go of the behaviors that haven’t been serving you. Be warned - as what you no longer need rises to the surface, your ego mind gets louder!   Soul Team Chat What in your life feels like it is no longer serving you? Are you getting mind chatter around...

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Day 3 No Striving Challenge – Sometimes the Best Action is No Action At All

Following up on the idea of Inspired Action, it’s important to point out that sometimes what you’re inspired to do is…to take no action at all.   This one can be tricky, because we live in a world that highly values being productive and taking action. And it can be very uncomfortable to stop striving to be productive or take action.   Speaking from experience, I gotta tell you, this can take practice, BUT it is a vital piece in being able to create ease, calm, and peace in your life.   So, today you’re going to move away from the incessant need to feel productive or be taking action. Believe me, I know that it’s very seductive, but you will thank yourself when you can loosen the reigns and start to enjoy life a little more…the laundry can wait!   Some areas to consider: Relaxing to watch a tv show instead of cleaning the house Letting your child skip a scheduled activity and give them a break (no worrying about the $ spent on...

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