manipulation Tag

Day 11 No Striving Challenge – 1st By-Product of Over-Analyzing

The 1st by-product of being an Over-Analyzer is JUDGEMENT – of ourselves, and of others.   1. Judging Ourselves – Because over-analyzing often brings with it the doubts and questioning of our choices and decisions, we end up judging and being very hard on ourselves when we feel we didn’t make the “right” choice. This keeps us striving to be better and do better next time.   2. Judging Others – By over-analyzing and over-thinking others words, actions and choices we can come to believe we understand their motivations and assume we know what’s “best” for them. We can judge their choices, and therefore try to control, guilt, and manipulate them into seeing things the “right” way…which of course is our way.   Soul Team Chat  Where and how are you judging yourself? Where and how are you judging others?  ...

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Are You Using Santa to Manipulate Your Kids?

Christmas is an exciting time of year for kids …but can be an overwhelming one for adults if you allow yourself to get hooked into the stress.  As the excitement increases for the kids, and the stress increases in direct proportion for the adults, I have seen and heard parents using the icons of the season (ie. Santa, Elf on the Shelf) in order to get their children to “behave.” It seems the perfect opportunity to step out of the role of being the “bad guy” ourselves, and putting the emphasis and blame somewhere else.  It takes the heat off of us for a change!!! You’ll hear statements such as: You better behave or you’ll be on the naughty list. You better listen cause Santa is watching. You’re going to get a lump of coal in your stocking if you keep that up. I’m gonna get Santa on the phone if you don’t clean your room. ….or some other more creative renditions. Though it may be a very effective method at the time, the hard truth is ….it’s...

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