over-achieving Tag

Day 15 No Striving Challenge – 2nd By-Product of Over-Achieving

The 2nd by-product of Over-Achieving is MICRO-MANAGING & MULTI-TASKING YOUR LIFE.   Instead of life being something to enjoy, it becomes something to manage. And in order to manage it, multi-tasking becomes inevitable. Our life becomes one big to-do list…and this keeps us very busy!   I’m sure that it is not big news to you to hear that we live in a hyper-paced society. Just listening to conversations, and looking around at people scurrying from one activity or errand to the next is proof enough that this is true. After being asked “How are you?” a common response is “Busy.”   When we’re busy, we’re given the false premise that we are actually achieving something.   What are you afraid will happen if you make the choice to slow down? Are you afraid… you will lose how others view you?…and you like the recognition. your kids will be deprived or held back in some way? you won’t feel important? that things would fall apart if you didn’t do them? you would be missing out on something? you would be judged? you would have to face...

Read More

Day 14 No Striving Challenge – 1st By-Product of Over-Achieving

The 1st by-product of Over-Achieving is WILLPOWER BURNOUT.   We’ve been taught that we need willpower to get the things we desire, whether that be to lose weight, make a certain amount of money, be successful in business, be a better parent, etc.   Not only is the idea about willpower a mistaken belief, but it’s a belief that takes a hit on us in more than one way: First, we exert willpower, thus forcing and pushing against the flow, in order to get where we want to be going. THEN, if we don’t get where we’re going fast enough, we beat ourselves up for not having “enough willpower” …and guilt ensues.   Here’s the thing, all willpower does is lead to burn out. Sure, maybe not right away. You’ll see some results….but there’s only so long you can sustain willpower. No need to feel guilt about it. We just aren’t designed to exert willpower to make things happen. The very premise of it goes against the natural flow of...

Read More

Day 13 No Striving Challenge – You might be an Over-Achiever if…

Over-Achieving keeps us from living in the moment. We are never content with what is, and are in a perpetual striving state to “get somewhere.” BUT that somewhere never comes. As soon as we achieve one goal, we quickly move on to the next.   This keeps us from truly appreciating the life we already have. That doesn’t mean that we have to “settle” for the life we have. It is possible to appreciate where we’re at while expecting more good to come into our lives.   As we appreciate what we have and who we are, it sets the stage for more things to appreciate to come into our lives.   You might be an Over-Achiever if… You feel the constant need to be doing something You have a hard time sitting and relaxing without thinking about all the things you could be doing You feel a relentless need to be productive You feel you need to climb the ladder in the pursuit of higher positions, power, and prestige You pride yourself at being a good multi-tasker You seek external symbols...

Read More