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Day 3 No Striving Challenge – Sometimes the Best Action is No Action At All

Following up on the idea of Inspired Action, it’s important to point out that sometimes what you’re inspired to do is…to take no action at all.   This one can be tricky, because we live in a world that highly values being productive and taking action. And it can be very uncomfortable to stop striving to be productive or take action.   Speaking from experience, I gotta tell you, this can take practice, BUT it is a vital piece in being able to create ease, calm, and peace in your life.   So, today you’re going to move away from the incessant need to feel productive or be taking action. Believe me, I know that it’s very seductive, but you will thank yourself when you can loosen the reigns and start to enjoy life a little more…the laundry can wait!   Some areas to consider: Relaxing to watch a tv show instead of cleaning the house Letting your child skip a scheduled activity and give them a break (no worrying about the $ spent on...

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Are You Using Santa to Manipulate Your Kids?

Christmas is an exciting time of year for kids …but can be an overwhelming one for adults if you allow yourself to get hooked into the stress.  As the excitement increases for the kids, and the stress increases in direct proportion for the adults, I have seen and heard parents using the icons of the season (ie. Santa, Elf on the Shelf) in order to get their children to “behave.” It seems the perfect opportunity to step out of the role of being the “bad guy” ourselves, and putting the emphasis and blame somewhere else.  It takes the heat off of us for a change!!! You’ll hear statements such as: You better behave or you’ll be on the naughty list. You better listen cause Santa is watching. You’re going to get a lump of coal in your stocking if you keep that up. I’m gonna get Santa on the phone if you don’t clean your room. ….or some other more creative renditions. Though it may be a very effective method at the time, the hard truth is ….it’s...

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The Challenge of Highly Sensitive Children

With Christmas fast approaching, the excitement and intensity of the season increases….which means that if you are a parent of a Highly Sensitive Child, you may see the excitement and intensity of your child also increase. With that can come some challenges, and it can be a test of your patience. The following blog gives you a glimpse into the life of a sensitive child…mine! And boy oh boy, it can be a roller coaster…not only for them, but for you as well. I get it. You ARE NOT alone. I invite you into my life and my learning...

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Are You a Spiritual Snob?

Once we decide to consciously take the path of personal growth, if we aren’t fully mindful and aware, we can run the risk of becoming what I refer to as a “Spiritual Snob.” I refer to growth of any kind as Spiritual. It’s not some “woo woo” concept that only yogis and gurus are privy to. To me the word “spiritual” is a broad term for the seeking of a better way; for wanting more from life. So please don’t let the term throw you off if it’s not a term you’d use to describe yourself. Growth comes in so many different forms that there is no way we can say one is better than the other. It’s a personal adventure. However, when we find a path that excites us, we can often develop blinders and start to think that “this is the way.” When we see exciting and amazing transformation in our own lives and parenting, we can’t help but want to shout it from the roofs tops and have others share...

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Are You Using Shame as a Form of Discipline?

We are here for connection.  And we especially want to feel connected with our children.  We are happiest when we feel connected – to our spouse, to our children, to our friends, and to our Source (whatever you choose to call it…God, Universe, Higher Self).   So why is there so much disconnection?  Why are we hearing about more family members who no longer communicate, friends that have parted ways, struggles with our children….?   After listening to Dr. Brene Brown on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday, I received a big ah-ha on this topic.   One of the factors is shame…and I think it’s a big one.   Shame is used to verbally stop unwanted and undesirable behaviour.  Shame is often used as a form of discipline.  Of course, we don’t always see that this is the case.  It’s become so common that we are unaware of the impact it has on our children…and our connection with them.   As quoted from Dr. Brene Brown – “Shame unravels our connection.”   Shaming makes the child feel: Wrong for...

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