self-care Tag

Striving is #1 Cause to Struggle, Overwhelm & Frustration

I woke up on New Years day, and feeling a little lazy, I didn’t want to get out of bed right away. So, as I lay there, I grabbed my phone and decided to check my emails. As they were downloading, I saw the many subject lines scrolling down the screen….and I was triggered! I was overwhelmed with a feeling I can only describe as “Ugh.” I don’t know why I was surprised by the influx of emails all peppy and encouraging me to live my best life in 2014…but something was set off in me. No denying it. I had a strong visceral reaction to having my inbox flooded with very well-intentioned emails all willing to help me change, fix, and improve my life. Knowing that when we get triggered it’s never about the other person or people; it’s always about us, I knew there was a message in this for me. So, I decided to just take some time and feel into what it was. I knew that...

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Who has time for that?!

Do you ever feel like time is the enemy?  That you are constantly negotiating your time, and you don’t get included on the docket of things that must be done…other than you get to be the driver?   This past weekend I went back to my parents farm in Saskatchewan for Thanksgiving (which was great by the way!).  At one of our meals I was sharing how I took my daughter, Mackenzie (9), for a “Mom & Me” Spa Day for her birthday.  As I was saying how I love the spas where you can hang out for the day wearing a robe, drinking tea, journaling, reading, and going in the hot tub between treatments, my sister responded with “Who has time for that?!”   …And it was a reminder to me of just how many other moms feel the same way.  She was speaking for more than just herself.   The thoughts of… That would be nice, but… I wish I could, but… I could use that, but…   OR not even entertaining the...

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Tea Time with Trish: Part 6 – Really, What is Balance?

UNEXPECTED GIFTS FROM A GETAWAY One of my take aways from my trip to Banff (click here for the first 5 parts) was to question more deeply what it really means to be in balance.  I have learned from my own experience that is not reasonable to expect that every single day is going to be perfectly in balance, or that there will always be equal time spent between work, activities, and family.  So then, what does it mean?  This is how I have come to understand it:   I believe that we need to relate balance to the balance of nature.  Everything in life has an ebb and a flow, and so will be the same when it comes to creating balance within our life.  We would drive ourselves crazy if we insisted on everything being in equal parts in all areas of our lives at all times.   If you look at the cycles of nature there is a time for action, and a time for rest.  This can easily be illustrated in...

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Tea Time with Trish: Part 5 – The Problem with Productivity

UNEXPECTED GIFTS FROM A GETAWAY My time in Banffbrought about some amazing learning moments for me; some more direct than others.  To keep you up to speed, you can also check out the previous parts by clicking here.   The next two weeks I will be sharing a couple of the ripple effect lessons I learned upon returning home.  What I had learned made me question further some of the concepts I had pondered before…one of them being our need to be “productive.”   A large part of the reason why I was having trouble settling in and simply enjoying my time in Banffwas because I had an underlying need to be productive.  Even though at a conscious level I no longer buy into and accept that our time needs to be filled with productive pursuits (not to be confused with purpose), at a subconscious level that belief was buried quite deep, and so my two minds were struggling with each other.   We have been raised in a culture that highly values productivity, and that in itself...

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Guest Blog: Help! I need to find myself!

“You are still YOU.”  This is one of the quotes taken from my friend and fellow blogger, Joanne Cook, who wrote the blog post below. The timing of this post is very fitting, since I have been interviewing many moms regarding some of the struggles they are encountering and what they are afraid of.  A common theme that emerged is that they (which may be you too) are afraid of losing themselves...

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