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Day 16 No Striving Challenge – Excuses that Keep You Striving

Excuses come in many forms, but the 2 main culprits that keep us striving are…   1. Money 2. Time   I’ll admit, I’ve used these excuses many times…and they are also the two reasons I hear most from people when it comes to justifying why they can’t slow down – not enough time, not enough money.   But here’s the thing, they really are excuses.   When we allow money and time to call the shots, we will forever be dictated and driven by these external motivators. In these cases we are approaching life from the outside in. And what really allows us to live in ease, calm and peace is when we live life from the inside out.   Money and time become extrinsic symbols we use to prove to others our value. But, let’s not kid ourselves, they only go so far in pulling the wool over our own eyes. If we don’t become aware that these are simply symbols for something deeper that we crave, we will be caught in a cycle of...

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Day 15 No Striving Challenge – 2nd By-Product of Over-Achieving

The 2nd by-product of Over-Achieving is MICRO-MANAGING & MULTI-TASKING YOUR LIFE.   Instead of life being something to enjoy, it becomes something to manage. And in order to manage it, multi-tasking becomes inevitable. Our life becomes one big to-do list…and this keeps us very busy!   I’m sure that it is not big news to you to hear that we live in a hyper-paced society. Just listening to conversations, and looking around at people scurrying from one activity or errand to the next is proof enough that this is true. After being asked “How are you?” a common response is “Busy.”   When we’re busy, we’re given the false premise that we are actually achieving something.   What are you afraid will happen if you make the choice to slow down? Are you afraid… you will lose how others view you?…and you like the recognition. your kids will be deprived or held back in some way? you won’t feel important? that things would fall apart if you didn’t do them? you would be missing out on something? you would be judged? you would have to face...

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Day 14 No Striving Challenge – 1st By-Product of Over-Achieving

The 1st by-product of Over-Achieving is WILLPOWER BURNOUT.   We’ve been taught that we need willpower to get the things we desire, whether that be to lose weight, make a certain amount of money, be successful in business, be a better parent, etc.   Not only is the idea about willpower a mistaken belief, but it’s a belief that takes a hit on us in more than one way: First, we exert willpower, thus forcing and pushing against the flow, in order to get where we want to be going. THEN, if we don’t get where we’re going fast enough, we beat ourselves up for not having “enough willpower” …and guilt ensues.   Here’s the thing, all willpower does is lead to burn out. Sure, maybe not right away. You’ll see some results….but there’s only so long you can sustain willpower. No need to feel guilt about it. We just aren’t designed to exert willpower to make things happen. The very premise of it goes against the natural flow of...

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Striving is #1 Cause to Struggle, Overwhelm & Frustration

I woke up on New Years day, and feeling a little lazy, I didn’t want to get out of bed right away. So, as I lay there, I grabbed my phone and decided to check my emails. As they were downloading, I saw the many subject lines scrolling down the screen….and I was triggered! I was overwhelmed with a feeling I can only describe as “Ugh.” I don’t know why I was surprised by the influx of emails all peppy and encouraging me to live my best life in 2014…but something was set off in me. No denying it. I had a strong visceral reaction to having my inbox flooded with very well-intentioned emails all willing to help me change, fix, and improve my life. Knowing that when we get triggered it’s never about the other person or people; it’s always about us, I knew there was a message in this for me. So, I decided to just take some time and feel into what it was. I knew that...

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The Challenge of Highly Sensitive Children

With Christmas fast approaching, the excitement and intensity of the season increases….which means that if you are a parent of a Highly Sensitive Child, you may see the excitement and intensity of your child also increase. With that can come some challenges, and it can be a test of your patience. The following blog gives you a glimpse into the life of a sensitive child…mine! And boy oh boy, it can be a roller coaster…not only for them, but for you as well. I get it. You ARE NOT alone. I invite you into my life and my learning...

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