Tea Time with Trish: Reconciling with my “Spiritual Side”
I’ve been on a conscious journey for quite a few years. Before that I was still on a journey…just an unconscious one. I was living my life by default not realizing that I really was the creator of my own life.
Once I woke up to the fact that I had more control over my own life than I realized, I began an avid search to begin to unpeel the layers of unconsciousness that I had allowed to occur…albeit unknowingly. These layers that I speak of were layers of beliefs that I had bought into over the years, because at the time I didn’t know that I had the choice to disregard them.
These layers that create a shell around the spark of who we really are begin at a very young age, so by the time we wake up to the fact that there is a different way, many of us have forgotten who we truly are…it’s been buried for so many years.
This certainly was the case for me. However, I do not have a single regret with how my journey evolved. I also don’t blame any outside sources for the reasons it happened. It was, and still is, my journey, and I would not be where I am, doing what I love to do, if I didn’t have to go on a quest to peel away the layers to who I am.
Although it did not start this way, it eventually became evident to me that this journey I was on was in fact a spiritual journey.
What? Who me…spiritual? But I’m a Catholic girl from a small Saskatchewan town (yep, about 250 people in all) that was raised going to church every weekend. What’s this about spirituality?
As I continued to explore this new world, I began to realize that I considered myself more spiritual than I did religious. Thanks to my parents, I always grew up knowing that all religions were okay, it was more a matter of which path you chose to get there. I already had this deeply embedded in my belief system.
Along the way, I also encountered some deeply devoted Catholics and Christians that were highly religious. It was this contrast that allowed me to settle into the fact that I considered myself spiritual…not religious. I have absolutely nothing against any religion, and in fact have read on many, and take from them what works for me, however, I also don’t feel I have to commit myself to just one, hence my reason for using the word spiritual.
I may ruffle some feathers here, but to me the idea of spirituality felt less judgemental and more open-minded. Although I don’t think we always need to define ourselves with labels, it did feel right to use that word to define my beliefs. I am very open-minded to learning and exploring more, knowing one book doesn’t have all the answers, but that answers can be found in many forms.
Now this brought with it a whole new idea to explore. Hmm? Spiritual, eh? What exactly does that look like?
I continued my avid search for knowledge and wisdom related to the idea of spirituality, and I came across many leaders in the world of spirituality. I learned a lot from these leaders, and assimilated what worked for me into my life. I also began to meet in-person some people who also considered themselves spiritual.
Although admirable, what I was seeing began to make me question my idea of spirituality and whether that’s a path I want to be on; I didn’t know if I could adhere to the discipline these people seemed to have. From my perspective at that time (keep in mind everything we see and hear is filtered through our own perspective) spiritual people seemed very serious; that life was serious. I struggled with thinking that everything I said and did needed to come from a space of higher awareness, and that some of the human mistakes I made demoted me from my “spiritual status”…I wasn’t living up to the standards of what I believed a spiritual person looked like.
I now realize that stage I went through was a necessary step in defining who I was and what my definition of spiritual was. I believe we are in a time of modern spirituality; a time where no one but ourselves defines what it means to be spiritual.
For me, spirituality means having a connection to ourselves; to what we consider our higher power. It means self-care, self-awareness, and self-growth. It means growing into our best versions of ourselves, and that it has no one direct path there…it will look different for everyone.
It does not mean having to travel to India, and meditating for hours on end. It does not mean taking life and our journey seriously (that was totally my own perception…no one directly taught me that). It does not mean isolating yourself, and only surrounding yourself with people on the same path you are on. It does not mean I have to curb my sarcastic sense of humor, or kick anyone to the curb.
Bottomline to me it means living your life open-minded, accepting, free of judgments (that includes of yourself), being willing to continue to learn, and readjusting when the inevitable “human” mistakes happen….and above all living with a sense of humour and lightness of heart.
Spirituality is not serious business….it’s your business.
Trisha Savoia is founder/owner of Absolute Awareness, and creator of the Best Mom You Can Be Program. Through her programs, writing, and speaking she uses her skills and experience as a mother, teacher, & Clinical Hypnotherapist to mentor moms who want to become the best mom they can be by beginning to focus on themselves first.
She teaches moms how to slow down, understand their true values & priorities, implement self-care & self-awareness, thereby opening up to their intuition to create their own fulfilment, meaning, purpose, and happiness. …which of course, all gets passed down to the children who can then retain their intuitive sense, and grow from a place of knowing the truth of who they are.