Tea Time with Trish: Trying to Do It On Your Own
Oh my my…when will I finally learn? I have to admit that although I am an advocate for recruiting help when we need it, there are still times I get the mindset that I can do it on my own.
I am a huge believer that we shouldn’t feel that we have to do and figure everything out on our own. This is the reason that I do what I do, because I know creating lasting change does require some guidance and support. Yet, in certain areas of my life, I have still felt I can do it on my own.
For whatever reason, I thought that there was an exception when it came to my health. I mean, come on, I know what do to when it comes to health. It’s not like I’m oblivious to the factors that contribute to optimal health.
HOWEVER, with all the knowledge I have regarding this subject, I still struggled with creating and maintaining the habits I wanted to incorporate into my life. I always had good intentions, and I would start with renewed commitment that this time I’m really going to stick with it. BUT, my past story was that it was hard to keep up. This had been a cycle for me for many years.
I do believe all these “start ups” weren’t all for naught, because I think that each time we do something it deepens the grooves in creating that habit. I have certainly seen improvements occurring in my life regarding my health and fitness. Yet, it was taking waaay longer than it needed to, and my cycle still continued. And of course I was also risking creating the belief that “I just can’t do it.” Even with being conscious of not wanting to let that enter as a belief, in the back of my mind I have to admit that all the “proof” I was getting was making a good case for why it was true.
If I could just admit to the fact that I needed some help, I could create the changes I wanted a lot faster, and with more ease. I hired and gladly paid for help in so many other areas of my life. And I can say with certainty if I had not, I would not be where I’m at now.
So, why the resistance to hiring help for my health? Bottom line, it felt frivolous. Why would I put money out when I think I know what to do? If I was just more committed, and had more discipline I could do it on my own.
Well, fact was, I wasn’t doing it on my own. Something else, whether it be work, the kids, or a tea date always took precedence. My determination to carve out the time for my health easily waned in the face of having something else to do. I wasn’t making it a high enough priority to win out in the battle against distraction.
I’m glad to say that I have finally come to my senses. I have now hired a personal trainer who will help me with not only my fitness goals, but also creating healthier nutritional habits. Both of which I have been neglecting due to feeling I just didn’t have the time (ahhh yes, time once again).
For me it took the form of needing to recruit help for my health. What areas of your life have you been determined to “go it on your own?” What have you felt was too frivolous or self-indulgent to spend money on, but yet you have a deep desire for it to be better?
Unfortunately, many feel this way when it comes to focusing on their happiness. We think we should know what makes us happy. But happiness encapsulates such a broad spectrum. Where do you start? What does it really look like?
In sharing this story, I hope to inspire you to admit that you don’t have to do it on your own; for you to become aware where you could use a little help, and then take the steps towards getting it.
I would love for you to share with me your stories of trying to do it on your own, and perhaps the action you did, or will take, to begin to change that.
Trisha Savoia is founder/owner of Absolute Awareness, and creator of the Best Mom You Can Be Program. Through her programs, writing, and speaking she uses her skills and experience as a mother, teacher, & Clinical Hypnotherapist to mentor moms who want to become the best mom they can be by beginning to focus on themselves first.
She teaches moms how to slow down, understand their true values & priorities, implement self-care & self-awareness, thereby opening up to their intuition to create their own fulfilment, meaning, purpose, and happiness. …which of course, all gets passed down to the children who can then retain their intuitive sense, and grow from a place of knowing the truth of who they are.