Tea Time with Trish: Wait…This Is Not How Its Suppose To Go!

Tea Time with Trish: Wait…This Is Not How Its Suppose To Go!



Some of you may know that last week I went to Banfffor a three day getaway.  I really looked forward to this time to myself.  I knew I needed it.  HOWEVER, I didn’t understand the full reason of why I really needed it.


I will share the reasons of why I really needed it in a 6 part series I decided to call “Unexpected Gifts From A Getaway.”  I am sharing the lessons I learned while there, as well as some of the ripple effect lessons I learned as a result…and they may not be what you expect.  My hope is that some parts of these awarenesses I came to will also serve a purpose for you.


I spent 3 full days in Banff, and the first day was exactly how I had imaged and envisioned it.  I got to Banff early, went straight to Starbuck’s to have my Chai Latte while settling in to write in my journal and doing some reading.


Everywhere I went I ensured that I always had an amazing view to look at.  For lunch I had the perfect table where I was in a direct line of vision with the mountains.  From there I went to hang out at the Fairmont Banff Springs Hotel.  I had never been there before, so when I found a quiet tea room overlooking the river with the mountains as a backdrop, I felt like I was in total bliss.  From there I then went to check-in to my own hotel, which was modest in comparison to theFairmont, but a perfect setting for me.  I had requested amountain view with a balcony, and when I walked in the was sun beaming into the room…I was thrilled.


All in all day one was great!  Although I do have to admit I did notice that I had some shallow breathing going on, where every once in awhile I had to take a deep breath so that I felt I was getting all the oxygen I needed.  I know this is a sign of tension, so it seemed odd to me that I would be feeling some tension considering the environment I was now in.


Come day two, I was a little surprised to find that as the morning was unfolding I felt a sadness engulfing me.  I had noticed it starting the night before, however chalked it up to being tired.  But, unfortunately I couldn’t ignore the fact that there was a lingering sadness.  I carried on with my plans, and had walked to Starbuck’s for my morning Chai Latte, journaling, and reading.  I spent a couple hours there and couldn’t ignore the fact that something was weighing on me…I had a persistent heaviness in my chest that refused to subside until I acknowledged it.


Initially, I kept trying to put it out of my mind, because this was not the “plan.”  I was here to enjoy my “me-time”, relish in the beauty surrounding me, and let the mountainous energy revitalize me.  I have to admit, I was a little frustrated and confused at first.  It did not make sense.  I was doing what I wanted to be doing…what was the problem?


Finally, I had to acknowledge that things, meaning my emotional state, weren’t going quite how I had expected.  With that acknowledgment, I decided to do some journaling around it, and be honest with myself for why these emotions were rising up.  Through the process of just letting it all pour out without constraint, it became apparent what was weighing on me.  And to be honest it was unexpected.


I had obviously been suppressing some emotion without even knowing it.  I actually hadn’t realized that it had affected me on a deeper level than I was willing to admit to myself.  With this new awareness, I knew it was now time to release it.


As synchronicity would have it, I then went to a little café, once again with an amazing view, and as I was waiting for my soup to arrive I decided to read a page from a book that I had brought along with me, but hadn’t yet opened.  As I read the page, I was awed and amazed (okay, not really, because these things happen so often…but I was truly thankful) that what I was reading was a direct answer to being able to let go of my sadness.  All it was, was a shift in my perspective, and it made all the difference.


As I got back to my room, giving myself permission to let go of any expectations that I had of my day, I felt my sadness and tension in my chest lift.


What I realized from this happening is how easily we can get caught up in our everyday busy lives, and not allow ourselves the time and solitude we need to acknowledge what our emotional side needs.


For me it had taken the removal of myself from the hub of the activity, so that I could slow down enough to listen…and I had prided myself on how well I was able to slow down…ouch, tough pill to swallow!  (Okay that’s a bit of an exaggeration, I am always open to learning new things and taking myself to the next level, and this is what this felt like for me.)


I have always been an advocate of allowing yourself to feel your feelings (without getting caught in the cycle of repeating the story over and over, hence continuing to create more of the same) and once you’ve done that ….to then set your mind in the direction that you want to be going.


The last statement of the previous paragraph turned out to be my next lesson…


Stay tuned to next week’s lesson number 2 in the blog series “Unexpected Gifts from a Getaway.”  Yep, the learning is just beginning!  I’ve only dipped my toes into the water so far.


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Trisha Savoia is founder/owner of Absolute Awareness, and creator of the Moms Who Want More Program.  Through her programs, writing, and speaking she uses her skills and experience as a mother, teacher, & Clinical Hypnotherapist to mentor moms who want more out of their lives – mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.