Tea Time with Trish: What’s With All the Tea?
You may be wondering…or not, but I’m going to share anyway!…how Tea Time with Trish came about, and why there is deeper significance to it.
For someone who is fairly sensitive to noise, you would think that writing in a bustling Starbuck’s would not lead to accomplishing much, however I have actually found it to be quite the contrary. At times it provides me with inspiration for some of my posts, but at all times it provides me with a sense of peace and calm.
Ok, I’m going to start at the beginning, so bare with me…Before I started on my journey (and yes, I know that is an over-used and cliché term, but I have yet to find another word to replace it, since that is exactly what it has been), I really didn’t know who I was (and again…cliché, but true), and because of that I really didn’t honour parts of myself. There were parts I just did NOT like about myself and I felt so guilty for having certain thoughts or feelings. One of those things that I felt guilty about was that at times I just wanted to flee. Get away from it all – my husband, my kids, my house, and sorry dear friends, but even my friends. In my mind I would literally scream, “I just want to be FREE!!!!”
Now, to my conscious mind this didn’t make sense. I have everything I want, why on earth would I want to flee?! I must be a terrible person; a terrible mom! How very ungrateful of me!
Well, what I have come to learn is that the reason that I was wanting to flee is because I was totally depleted. I was going, going, going – both in mind and body. Always thinking ahead to the next task; the next thing to check off on my to-do list; the next obligation to fill. “Look at me, I’m so productive!” And therein lie the problem – the need to feel productive at all times. If there was a minute to spare, I would fill it in with something “productive.” Plan another play-date, invite guests over for dinner, run out and get groceries…plan, plan, plan.
I had mistakenly equated being productive with being valuable; and being non-productive with being weak. To me it was a sign of weakness in my character that I couldn’t keep up; that I couldn’t do it all. It really irked my “ego mind.”
“Damn straight (excuse the language…I’m from Saskatchewan; this is mild) I could do it all, and I’ll prove it to you! Watch me, I’m going to plan another play date, and take on even more. Yes, I will probably end up yelling at my kids, and stomping around in irritation, because the noise level is getting to me, but don’t worry, I will put on a happy face when you come to pick up the kids. “ (And then I’d cross my fingers that my kids friends kept my secret…thankfully by the time they were really old enough to tell on me, I had already learned this lesson).
I started to realize enough is enough. “What the heck am I doing?” As I started and continued on my journey, I really became aware that there is no way I can keep up with that pace and stay sane…not to mention happy. I’ve come to realize that when I lose my temper with my husband (I can be a little feisty – it’s the red hair), or yell at the kids, or get those feelings of wanting to flee, or wanting to eat everything in the pantry…they are my “caution signs.”
Everyone has them, and they can be different for everyone, so it’s up to you to pay attention to what yours are, but I have found that a lot of the ones I have also apply to many others. When you get these “caution signs” it means that you are depleted and its time to take care of yourself.
Now that I’m aware these are some of my caution signs, I catch them a lot quicker, and they’re a signal to me to slow down and start to think about myself.
This is where the tea comes in! I knew I needed to replenish my mind, body, and spirit, so I began to create a daily practice…and my practice involves tea! My practice doesn’t look the same every single day, but everyday I do enjoy a nice cup of tea, and over time my mind has associated tea with relaxation and “me time.” Now when I grab a cup of tea I can literally feel my body respond…and it just makes me happy.
Whenever I sit down to do some writing, I always have my tea with me (a lot of cases it is a Starbuck’s Chai Latte!), and it helps me to get in the mind set I need in order to share from my heart. In addition to helping with my writing, my daily practice has been absolutely invaluable in helping me to create the changes I have made in my life. And yes there are days…and even weeks (gulp) where I sometime neglect my practice, but I ALWAYS come back to it, because my caution signs tell the tale…I need it to be at my best!
And of course, if I happen to let myself get into a depleted state (which I have to say happens so much less often), and I start to get irritated or yell at the kids, I have my 9 year old son who has so kindly reminded me, “Mom, I think you need to meditate!” Don’t worry, if you forget, they’ll remind you!
OK, back to the tea – my association with tea, relaxation, and self-discovery evolved further when one day I was driving home and I decided to take a detour (with tea in hand) to Baker Parker where I sat, relaxed, and simply enjoyed the view. During those moments the idea Tea Time with Trish came to mind, although at the time I wasn’t sure how, or if, I would incorporate that into my business. Then one day a friend of mine suggested I give my blog a signature, and thereby my blog “Tea Time with Trish” was created!
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