The Lessons of a People-Pleaser
This quote encompasses a huge learning I had to go through to continue to release my people-pleasing tendencies. Being a “recovering” people-pleaser, the idea of someone being upset with me, or not agreeing with what I said or even how I said it absolutely made we lose sleep. It somehow made me feel that what I was doing or saying was “bad.” That there was something about me that was “wrong” and I needed to figure out how to adjust myself and my behaviour to be “better.”
As I began on my personal growth journey it became very obvious early on that this would be one of my greatest lessons…and that it was also a two-part lesson. The first part was learning to speak my truth. The second was being okay with how others took it when I did.
What I came to know and understand was that in accepting myself, my beliefs, and my values meant not necessarily everyone would agree with me. BUT if I was okay with who I was, and what I stood for that was enough. AND what is important is that what I say and do is done with integrity on my part. When that’s the case. PERIOD. There’s nothing left to over-analyze and dwell on.
Learning to accept myself for who I truly am and to understand that I am not “bad” or “wrong” when I speak my truth was an evolution. It didn’t happen all at once, and I’m sure there are still pieces that will continue to surface.
In the end, when we are happy with who we are and are honest in our words and actions, the right people will always be in our lives…and the ones who don’t understand you will fall away.
I am blessed to have an abundance of friends and family that understand this and stick around!
Trisha Savoia is founder/owner of Absolute Awareness, and creator of the The Integrity Code, and The Soulful Parent Programs. Through her programs, writing, and speaking she uses her skills, experience, and intuition as a mother, teacher, Clinical Hypnotherapist, and Entrepreneur to help guide moms to recover their true selves and their intuition, while at the same time learn how to parent so their children can do the same.